17 Ways to Say Sorry for Your Loss and Really Mean It

Unique and personal ways that you can use to say sorry for your loss to someone you care about.

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When someone you know loses a loved one, it’s so easy to feel lost and helpless. It’s not easy seeing someone dear to you experience this much pain, and you just want to help them any way you can.

But even if you have the best intentions, sometimes you still end up saying or doing the wrong things.

In your desire to make them feel better, instead of making them feel comforted, you end up doing just the opposite.

There are other ways you can say how sorry you are for their loss and make them feel that you mean it. When words fail, show them that they have a friend in you by doing these thoughtful things for them.

‘Sorry for Your Loss’ Messages

My heart is filled with sorrow at the heartbreaking news. I pray that the love of God will sustain you and the support of your loved ones will hold you close in this time of deep sadness. I’m thinking and praying for you all. My deepest condolences.


A loved one’s passing can bring a pain so deep that only time can heal. There are no words that can ever describe the pain, sadness, and longing. But with God’s loving grace, you will be able to heal and feel joy again and smile at the thought that they are already in paradise.


I wish I could express the grief that I feel over your loved one’s passing. Just knowing that you are going through a pain so indescribable makes me want to reach out and hold you. May it bring you comfort to know that others care, and that we are just here to help you in any way we can.


I pray for your inner strength as you suffer the passing of your loved one. My heart and my thoughts are with you always. If there is anything I can do to lessen your burden, please let me know. I’m only one call away.


My deepest sympathy on your loss. He was such a wonderful person who always had a kind word for everybody. He will be truly missed. I pray that you will have the strength and courage to keep going despite the pain.


I am honored and blessed to have known him. He has touched our lives in ways one cannot imagine. I am deeply saddened by his passing and would like to offer my condolences to you and your family. My heart is with you during this very sad time.


A truly wonderful person has left us, and we are devastated. There is no one in the world quite like her. Even if she’s gone from this world, her memories will never fade. I’m praying for your strength and courage. Please know that I’m just here if you need anything.


I’m sending lots of love and deepest sympathies on the passing of your most cherished little one. It breaks my heart to know that you are going through this kind of loss and pain. Please accept my deepest sympathies.


I’m very sorry to hear about your loss. It’s a very difficult time. Don’t forget that whatever you may be feeling right now, this too shall pass. Stay strong and brave. I love you and I will be here for you.


I’m so sorry that you have to experience all this. I cannot imagine the pain that you must be feeling right now. Just remember that I’m here for you to help you with anything. Please take care.


I’m thinking about you during this difficult time. May the beautiful memories of your dearest loved one ease the sadness and the pain that is in your heart. I’m very sorry for your loss.

Say sorry for your loss by letting them know that you will be there for them in their hour of need.

Words of sympathy can mean the world to a grieving friend, but knowing that they have someone in their life who will be with them through the hard and ugly parts can also give solace.

It’s not the same as having your loved one right there with you, alive and well. But it’s a comforting thought to know that someone will be willing to step up and help you pick up the pieces.

Stay present in their lives. Be truthful and say that it’s going to hurt for a while. That it’s going to hurt for a lot longer than they realized, but that you love them, and that you will be there for them every step of the way.

Say sorry for your loss by including them in your thoughts and prayers.

When you’re not sure what to say or what to do, the best thing to do is to pray for them. Let them know that you are thinking about them and that you are praying for them for their strength and healing.

Forget about time expectations as well. Every person copes in a different way when they lose someone they love.

They may struggle with their grief longer than expected, but allow them to grieve for as long as they need. Reassure them that you won’t judge or think less of them, and that they should acknowledge the pain of their loss.

Say sorry for your loss by telling them that they can reach you at any time.

The moment that they come out of their grief-stricken daze, they will want to have someone that they can talk to.

Even at 3 in the morning. If you are that person for them, you should be ready to sit with them and talk. Or even just sit in silence and hold hands, letting them cry in your arms for however long they want.

Say sorry for your loss by giving them the space that they need.

When people lose a loved one, everyone will want to shower them with condolences and sympathetic messages.

People will be going out of their way to make them feel okay, visiting them at their homes to just talk to them.

Sometimes this is the last thing they want. Sometimes they just want to be alone with their feelings and sort through all the emotions by themselves.

Letting them know that you are just there for them when they need you is enough, but avoid smothering them.

Say sorry for your loss by admitting that you don’t know what to say.

No one really knows the right thing to say when someone dies. There’s just nothing that someone can say to take away the pain and the sorrow.

Admitting that you’re at a loss for words is a good start. When you claim to know that you do, it’s the quickest way that you can say the wrong or inappropriate thing.

Instead, hold hands or give them a hug.

Any gesture that will show how very sorry you are will be okay because actions truly speak louder than words.

Say sorry for your loss by telling them that you cannot imagine what they’re going through.

You truly cannot imagine the pain and sadness that they are feeling. Even if you experienced a big loss yourself, people just don’t grieve the same way. One person’s grief is different because there are many factors affecting it.

Each death is different, every relationship is unique, and not all people have the resiliency to cope. Not all people have a strong and loving support network as well.

Be understanding and supportive during their time of difficulty and just reassure them that you will always be ready to help.

Say sorry for your loss by telling that he / she was a wonderful person.

The pain is more painful because they lost someone so dear, so good, and so wonderful. Letting them know that they have loved a person that made this world a better place will fill them with pride and many happy feelings.

Say sorry for your loss by letting them know he / she will be truly missed.

Life will never be the same without them, and for this, they will be truly missed. They will no longer be around to brighten their lives, and they will no longer be around to celebrate every milestone with the family.

This is what hurts the most. When they feel the urge to cry, scream, or lash out, let them.

Tell them that it’s okay to feel this way.

Say sorry for your loss by sharing a wonderful memory.

You can talk and look back on the life that they lived and share stories and fond memories. Walk down memory lane and share nice stories to help their loved ones through their grieving process.

Share something about how they helped you in your life, how they inspired you to do your best, or how they reminded you to spend more time with family because you’ve been working so much.

Tell them something about the deceased that you know their loved ones will appreciate knowing and will ease the pain in their hearts.

Say sorry for your loss by honoring their memory.

No matter what kind of relationship you had with the person who passed on, you should honor their memory and show respect.

Whether you truly liked them or not, it’s never good to say bad things about someone who’s already gone.

You don’t have to have a mural or a statue created for them just to honor their memory. Speaking about them with respect and compassion will be more than enough.

You can also help in memorializing them by starting a charity foundation, or planting a tree, or writing letters, or holding remembrance gatherings.

No matter how big or small your effort, it will be very much appreciated by their loved ones.

Say sorry for your loss by asking if they want to talk about it.

When they are experiencing grief and they don’t know how to handle it, it helps to talk about it with someone. But don’t just assume that they’re ready to talk about it just because you are.

Ask them how they are holding up in a gentle and considerate manner, and if they want to talk about what they’re going through.

They will need no urging when they’re ready to talk, and they will just open to you when they have the chance.

Say sorry for your loss by asking how you can be of help.

Don’t be afraid to ask what you can do for them. It’s never good to assume, and it’s never good to impose. They will be going through different stages of grief, so it will be good to recognize the signs.

Are they still in denial, or are they in the bargaining stage?

Are they angry or depressed, or have they finally accepted the loss of their loved one? All this is normal, and knowing where they are in the grieving process can help you give them the support that they need.

Being with someone who’s grieving is never easy. Don’t take it personally when they become angry, or when they fail to see all the things that you’re doing for them.

Give them the time they need to deal with their emotions, and reassure them that you’re not going anywhere.

Say sorry for your loss by feeding them.

There will be a lot going on in their lives, and eating can be the last thing on their minds. They will have no energy to do anything else, much less cook something so they can eat.

But they will need to eat and nourish themselves because they will be facing some of the toughest days of their lives. Don’t take their word for it.

Prepare them hot meals that will nourish both body and spirit. Cook their favorite meals so that they will start to feel a little bit like themselves again.

When they are properly fed, they will have more energy to tackle the day ahead. When there are hot meals prepared, the fridge is well-stocked, and the house is in order, they will feel more like themselves again and not sink deeper in despair.

Say sorry for your loss by telling them you love them.

Reassuring them that you love them and you are there for them in their time of sorrow will mean a lot. Praise them for their strength as they cope with their loss, but let them know that it’s okay to be human and vulnerable as well.

Tell them that it’s alright to let go of their emotions from time to time.

Act on their behalf when they cannot do anything because of the pain they’re going through. Show up at their door because you anticipate their needs.

Tell them only the truth, even if you know it’s going to hurt.

Listen when they’re talking, and listen when they’re not.

Say sorry for your loss by just being with them.

You don’t need to talk and help them process everything that they’re feeling.

Sometimes it’s just good to enjoy a moment of silence, have a cup of tea, and just reassure them with your presence. When they’re not ready to talk about it, no matter how much you try, they simply will not talk.

Don’t feel pressured to make them share how they’re feeling, because they are dealing with their grief in their own way. Your job is to make sure that they have someone they love by their side.

Say sorry for your loss by making sure that they have fewer things to worry about at home or at work.

When someone dear to you loses a loved one, it will turn their world upside down. They will not be able to function, to face people, to go to work, or to run the household like normal.

If you can help them take care of these things for them, they will appreciate it very much.

Assist them with their bills payments so that everything is updated. Make sure that their fridge is clean and well-stocked.

If they have a backlog on their laundry, help them wash, dry, and fold so that they will have clean clothes to wear and fresh sheets to sleep on.

If the house needs a good vacuuming, do it until everything is spic and span. Support your friend in the small ways because this clearly speaks of your love for them.

Say sorry for your loss by still being there for them even when the funeral is over.

It’s during the days after the funeral that everything will start to sink in. They will realize that this is how life will be from now on.

When that happens, be there for them and help them come to terms with the loss.

Guide them as they take life one day at a time.

It will be a long and difficult journey, but it will get better in time with your love and support. Remember that experiencing grief is different for everyone.

Some people will mourn for a while, and then just get back to their normal routines to help them cope.

Some people will take a longer time to heal and shut out the rest of the world until they feel like their old self again. Whichever it may be, don’t ever stop giving them the help and support that they need.

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