Weddings are always a fun, romantic, and elegant affair.
It’s the chance to be with friends and family and enjoy delicious food, wine, and music.
Not to mention that it’s a chance to dress up, get your hair and makeup done, and party the night away.
But before the actual wedding day itself, there’s the wedding card that you need to take care of.
If this is the first wedding that you’re going to attend as an adult, it’s safe to say that you have no idea what goes into writing a proper wedding card.
If you have gone to a few weddings yourself, this will also be a good time to refresh your knowledge and make sure that you’re doing it right.
There’s no template or strict guideline when it comes to writing the perfect wedding card.
As long as you capture the right sentiment, and there are no grammatical or spelling errors on your card, your wedding card is ready to be sent out.
What You Need to Know About Wedding Cards
Wedding cards are customarily sent to an engaged or newlywed couple to express your wedding sentiments.
You can send the wedding card out when you receive the formal wedding invitation. This way, the bride and the groom will have a chance to read it before their days get busy and your card gets tossed aside to some corner.
Some people prefer to give the wedding card on the wedding day itself, together with their wedding presents, and personally give it to the bride and groom. This will give it that more personal touch, as you will also be able to kiss and hug the newlyweds and give them your well wishes directly.
Others prefer to send it after the wedding, when they can settle down and recall the enjoyable moments they had during the wedding. They prefer to write it on their own time, and then send it in the mail so that the newlyweds will receive it when they come home from their honeymoon.
There really is no set timeline when it comes to sending out wedding cards.
As a suggestion, you can follow the 30/60 rule. This means you can send your wedding card 30 days before the wedding day, or 60 days after. Anything later than that and you can just think about sending the newlyweds a Christmas card or a Valentine’s card instead 😉
Different Style Wedding Cards
There are many different style wedding cards that you can choose from, depending on your own style and personality. Sometimes, you will choose a wedding card based on the relationship you have with the bride or the groom, or what the theme of their wedding is.
Wedding cards also come in a variety of formats.
If you don’t have time to look for the most unique and most special wedding card out there, any wedding card that you can buy from the stationery store should do.
In case you don’t find one that matches your taste, you can easily go online and look for wedding card templates that you can download and print.
You can type your message directly on the template and just print it out, or you can write it with pen and paper if you have calligraphy quality handwriting.
If you’re the artsy and creative type who likes anything DIY, you can also make your own wedding card out of recycled materials.
Unleash your creativity and let your imagination run wild. Make it as pretty as you can, and make it something that you know the bride and the groom will both appreciate.
You can take your pick from vintage, modern, classic, formal, whimsical, rustic, or photo wedding cards.
There are also many themes that can make your wedding card stand out from the rest of the pile. You can have a monogram theme, a chalkboard theme, or a beach and nautical theme. If you’re feeling more adventurous, you can go with some shimmer, sparkle, and shine. The choice is yours!
Should You Write “Congratulations” on the Wedding Card?
There was a time when writing the word ‘congratulations’ on a wedding card was frowned upon.
It was because it suggests that the bride ‘landed the man’, so it was worthy of congratulations.
But that was then. Today you can use ‘congratulations’ on your wedding card and not be judged harshly for it. If you want to avoid using ‘congratulations’ altogether, a simple ‘best wishes’ will suffice.
Your Relationship to the Couple
Before you whip out your pen and start writing your well wishes and congratulations, first you must ask what your relationship to the bride and groom is. Is he a good friend from college that you only get to see once or twice a year? Is she your childhood best friend? Is he a work colleague, or a close friend from college?
How close you are to the couple will determine the kind of wedding sentiment that you should write on the wedding card. If you want to make sure that you’re writing it correctly, a wedding wish or sentiment should be sweet and romantic.
It should be something that will make the couple smile and feel happy about their decision to get married.
What You Should Write on a Wedding Card
If you’ve never written a wedding card before, there’s no need to panic.
It’s actually as easy as writing a quick note or a text message, only with more thought and inspiration.
It should be tailored to the bride and groom, and it should speak to them in a way that will put a smile on their faces and leave a warm, fuzzy feeling in their hearts.
First, congratulate the couple on their wedding day.
Then express your gratitude for being invited to the wedding.
You’re important, which is why you’re invited to the wedding. Before you received that wedding invitation, the bride and the groom had to add and remove people several times before coming up with the final guest list. The fact that you are invited after all of that indicates that your presence truly means the world to them.
If you’re related to either the bride or the groom, the next thing that you can write is a sort of welcome message.
Welcome them to the family and express your excitement about having another addition to it.
You can go ahead with sharing what you love most about the couple, and how you think they will make the most wonderful husband and wife. Give your wedding wishes.
Let them know that you want them to have only the best on their wedding day and for the rest of their lives. This is where you can write what you want to tell them about life and love. Maybe share a personal anecdote, or give a piece of advice.
Wedding Sentiments and Sayings
If you don’t want to follow this format, you can also do it differently by using poetry to convey your message. There are many classic poems which you can use to make your wedding card more classically romantic.
You can also make use of beautiful wedding quotes that are short and direct to the point. There are sentimental quotes, and there are funny quotes. There are formal quotes, and there are inspiring quotes. Just take your pick.
If that doesn’t work for you, you can always do it through song! There are many beautiful songs that can express the meaning of marriage and committing your life to that one special person.
Pick out the lyrics with the most special meaning, or just choose a song from a singer or a band that the couple loves. You can get creative with it and even change some words so that it will be more personalized.
More Wedding Card Tips
Even if the wedding card is store-bought, make sure that it’s personal. You may want to ditch the card that has a standard greeting of ‘Dear Couple’ in front because that’s the most impersonal that you can get. Get a blank card instead and write the wedding card the way you want it to be written.
If you share a special memory with the couple, don’t hesitate to write it down. This will make your wedding card different and make the couple feel special and loved.
Make it as heartwarming as possible, and say what’s in your heart!
Wedding Card Etiquette
As much as possible, write on your wedding card when you’re not in a rush. Don’t use just any pen, especially one that blots! And if you must write your wedding card in a hurry, don’t do it on the first flat surface that you come across.
When you get the wedding sentiments right, you must at least write them down in a way that the bride and the groom can read. If you don’t like your handwriting because it looks like a kindergartener’s, you can ask someone with a nice handwriting to write it for you. If that doesn’t work, you can always type it on a Word document, print, cut, and paste it onto your wedding card.
Crisis averted 🙂
If you’re looking for inspiration on what to write on your wedding card, here are some examples that clearly capture the perfect wedding sentiments.
Formal Wedding Wishes
Weddings are almost always a formal event. Guests are expected to wear their best dresses and tuxedos, with their faces all made up and hair styled ever so elegantly. However, it doesn’t mean that your wedding card should also be very formally and heavily worded.
If you’re gunning for classic, timeless, or romantic, a formal wedding card is your best option. Here are a few examples.
Thank you for inviting us to be a part of your wedding celebration! We are beyond thrilled to know that you are finally tying the knot. We wish you a life full of love and joy, of dreams fulfilled, and promises kept. Getting married is a huge and life-changing decision, but it’s also one of the best things that you will ever experience. We hope you enjoy every moment of your engagement and the days leading up to your wedding. May your life after your wedding also bring you all of life’s blessings. Best wishes to you both as you embark on this wonderful journey.
Congratulations to you both on your wedding! This chapter of your lives is sure to bring you plenty of wonderful surprises and beautiful moments. Your wedding day is only the first day of the rest of your lives, so make sure that you do it right. There will be many distractions with the wedding planning and the wedding ceremony, but don’t ever lose your focus on the most important people in your lives. Your families, your friends, and that one person you’re committing your life to. I feel so much joy for you both and the path that you are about to take together.
May the love and happiness that you feel today on your wedding day last a lifetime. May God bless you, your husband, and your marriage so that you will be the best partners to each other, and in a marriage that celebrates your life and love. I just know that you will make each other very happy. Your married life has so many wonderful things in store for you. Take your time in unwrapping them, and never let go of your promise to love and honor one another every single day. Sending you our love and best wishes!
Congratulations on your wedding! This is the best news I’ve received this week, and I can’t wait to be there and witness your big day. You two make the most beautiful pair, and I know that you will make the most wonderful husband and wife to each other. I hope that your wedding turns out to be the wedding of your dreams, and that your life together after the wedding be even better than what you imagined. I can’t be any happier now that you’re getting married. I would like to congratulate you on your wedding and wish you both a beautiful life together.
Funny Wedding Wishes
It’s not a crime if you write something funny (or punny) on your wedding card.
If the bride and groom have a good sense of humor, you can go ahead and write something funny that will make them laugh out loud.
You need to be careful, though, because a joke that sounds funny in your head might not come across as funny on paper. What’s more, it can be misinterpreted or misunderstood.
To avoid blunders of this nature, it’s best to stay with the tried and tested jokes, which are mild and wholesome. Stay away from off-color jokes, and avoid sounding sarcastic or scornful. Also avoid writing anything that can be insulting. Most importantly, stay away from divorce jokes.
Funny messages on wedding cards can lift the mood and ease any kind of tension between guests, if there are any. They can also allow the bride and the groom to relax, enjoy, and have a laugh amidst the excitement and the celebration. Here are some examples that can help you write the perfect funny wedding card message.
Before the wedding and exchanging of I Do’s, you will be madly in love with each other. After the wedding, you will just mostly be mad at each other. Good luck and best wishes to the newlyweds!
Now that you are finally tying the knot, I want you to know that even if I give you my best wishes and heartfelt congratulations, nothing will protect you from the life of slavery that you will live as soon as you are pronounced husband and wife. Best of luck to you on this exciting new chapter in your life!
Saying “I Do” is like clicking on the ‘I Accept’ button when you install new software on your computer. You have no clue what you’re getting but you just say yes, anyway. Cheers to married life, and best wishes!
Thank you for inviting us to eat your food, drink your wine, and hog the dance floor while you two kids get married. We wish you lots of love and happiness! Congratulations and best wishes!
Getting hitched is a lot like drama school. May your marriage have more comedy than melodrama. Best wishes to the newlyweds!
Casual Wedding Wishes
If it’s not in your nature to say something so proper or formal, you don’t have to do it. The bride and the groom might even think that the wedding card didn’t come from you if it sounds so unlike you.
Stick with what you’re most comfortable with and say what’s in your heart.
Remember that you can be casual without being too casual. It’s still a wedding card that you’re writing after all, not a grocery list, and not a to do list. As long as your message is something that the bride and groom would love, you can keep it short, sweet, and casual. Here are a few examples.
I’m so thrilled to be celebrating your wedding day with you. I wish you nothing but the best in your married life, today and always. Cheers to a long and blissful marriage!
Congratulations on your big day! Thank you for allowing us to share this milestone with you. It means so much to us be a part of your big day. Now let’s get this party started, shall we?
Congratulations on your wedding. We’re just so thrilled to be here. It’s so lovely to see you standing right next to each other, looking happy and excited to for your new life together. Here’s to happy times ahead!
I am very honored to witness your special day. Thank you for keeping me in mind. I cannot wait to see the both of you become husband and wife. May you be blessed with a lifetime of love and joy. Cheers to love, laughter, and happy ever after!
Religious Wedding Wishes
If you know the couple to be religious, you can also write a nice religious message on the wedding card. You can mention God or use an appropriate prayer or Bible scripture. Make sure that you customize the message so as not to sound like you’re preaching. Something that sounds too religious can also make the couple uncomfortable. Here are some ways you can write it.
Congratulations on the wedding, and thank you for inviting me to be a part of it. You are a beautiful couple, and I know that married life will serve you well. May God bless you on your journey and may He always look kindly upon you.
Best wishes to the newlyweds! I know that your marriage will be strengthened by your love for each other and by the grace of God. May you be blessed with a happy and wonderful life today and always.
You are some of the kindest, most generous, and most compassionate people I know. Your marriage is a blessing to each other and to all the people who love you. May you grow in love and faith together, and may God always look upon you kindly. Congratulations and best wishes.
I wish you all the best as you begin a new chapter in your life as husband and wife. God has many wondrous plans for the both of you, and I can’t wait for them to unfold right before you. Congratulations, and cheers to a lifetime of love and happiness!
Family Wedding Wishes
When a member of the family is getting married, you can go about writing the wedding card any which way you want. You can still be formal, but why be if the bride or the groom is someone close to you and belong to the same family?
You can be religious, sweet, sentimental, or casual, and the wedding message should still be fine. Just make sure to keep the message light, uplifting, and positive. Much like these examples.
What a great day for the whole family, especially for the two of you. Today, we officially welcome you to this crazy, loud, but wonderful family. Best wishes to you newlyweds, and may the happiness and love that you feel today last for a lifetime!
It’s about time that we officially have you as our daughter in law / son in law. Congratulations on your wedding, and may this be the beginning of a lifetime of wonderful moments and treasured memories. All the best to you!
Today, two families became one. Man became husband, and woman became wife. We wish you both a life filled with happiness, love, and abundance. May God bless you richly, and may your married life be even more blessed.
Congratulations on taking the big step and making the commitment to spend your lives together. May God bless you with a beautiful life, and may you always stay true to the promise that you made each other. All the best to you newlyweds.
Best Friend Wedding Wishes
Best friends can basically say anything to each other. That’s the whole dynamic of their friendship, after all. You can write your sentiments on the wedding card and make it as cheesy, as mushy, as funny, as formal, or as sentimental as you want.
Your friend will immediately get what you’re trying to say, and they will surely appreciate the gesture. Some examples of wedding wishes that can only come from best friends are listed below.
Of all the wonderful events that we celebrated together over the years, your wedding clearly tops the list. I’m so happy that you’re married. Now you can tell me all the dos and don’ts of marriage based on first-hand experience. Congratulations and best wishes!
The secret of our strong friendship is our ability to laugh at the big and small things. Now that you’re married, I wish that you will always make each other laugh and not take life too seriously. Best wishes and may you always be happy in love.
Today, you will be receiving plenty of well wishes and advice. But at the end of the day, only the two of you will know what’s good for your marriage. Here’s to wonderful new discoveries, exciting opportunities, and forever love. Congratulations and best wishes!
Finally, you are husband and wife! Achievement unlocked! You’re in this for the long haul, so you might as well do a great job at it. Don’t forget to have fun as well. Congratulations and all the best to you!
Thanking the Couple
Sending a wedding card is a considerate gesture to the bride and groom, as well as their families.
Being invited to an event as important as a wedding is very special, and the least that you can do is thank them for thinking about you and inviting you to their special day.
When you express your gratitude, you can put it in writing in the form of a wedding card. You can also do it by giving the newlywed a special gift or token that you know they will love.
It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money. It can be a personalized gift, or it can be something that you can create yourself. When it comes to wedding gifts, it’s the thought that counts.
The more thought you put into choosing your gift, the more it will be appreciated.
A wedding is a couple’s biggest day. Give it the attention and importance that it deserves by sharing in the celebration and doing your part to make it a stress-free and successful event.
When You Can’t Make It on Their Big Day
When something happens and you cannot make it to their wedding, let the wedding planners or the couple know right away. This way, they can give your seat to another guest who’s sure to be there at the wedding.
Even if you can’t make it to the wedding, give your thanks and appreciation to the lovely couple. They consider you important enough to be there on the biggest day of their lives, so that one deserves many thanks.
Let them know that even if you won’t be present at the wedding, you will be with them in spirit, and that they will always have your love and support.
How to Write a Warm Closing
When you close a wedding card, use something heartwarming and evokes much love and happiness.
The safest ones to use are usually ‘congratulations’ and ‘best wishes’, but you can also use ‘warmly,’ ‘with love’, ‘love always’, or ‘much love to you both’.
Make sure that your name is written clearly so that the bride and groom will know right away who the card is from.
Always be sincere, never phony. If you don’t know what to say, you can always get inspiration from sample wedding messages that you can Google anytime.
If you’re not that computer savvy, you can do it the old-fashioned way and buy a traditional wedding card from the stationery store and write down your wedding sentiments.
Even if you’re only close with the bride or just the groom, don’t forget to greet them both in your wedding card. It’s both their wedding, after all.
Also, if you must write on a beautiful wedding card, make sure that you’re also using a good pen! You wouldn’t want to ruin a perfectly good card by smearing ink all over it when you begin writing a new paragraph or when you close the card. It doesn’t cost a lot and it’s pretty handy, too.
Lastly, write legibly so that your message is easy to read. If you have poor handwriting, you can always ask someone you know with beautiful handwriting to pen the message for you.
- 1 What You Need to Know About Wedding Cards
- 2 Different Style Wedding Cards
- 3 Should You Write “Congratulations” on the Wedding Card?
- 4 Your Relationship to the Couple
- 5 What You Should Write on a Wedding Card
- 6 Wedding Sentiments and Sayings
- 7 More Wedding Card Tips
- 8 Wedding Card Etiquette
- 9 Formal Wedding Wishes
- 10 Funny Wedding Wishes
- 11 Casual Wedding Wishes
- 12 Religious Wedding Wishes
- 13 Family Wedding Wishes
- 14 Best Friend Wedding Wishes
- 15 Thanking the Couple
- 16 When You Can’t Make It on Their Big Day
- 17 How to Write a Warm Closing